“There is no greater experience for a man than to feel like life is firing on all cylinders, so to speak. It provides ‘that thing’, a feeling that cannot always be accurately articulated. In this book, my goal is to share with men everywhere the things that I’m learning as I journey towards that feeling.”

-Oliver C. Marcelle

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In this group experience, we will walk through the book, chapter by chapter, to dissect and discuss the information shared. The aim is to address areas that we all grapple with and devise strategies for self-discovery and improvement.

The goal is for all of us to

• Walk away with a method for assessing where we are vs. where we want to be
• Make commitments that align with our goals
• Be intentional about putting in the consistent effort needed to achieve our goals

Here are a few of the questions we will explore:

1. Are there unresolved things (feelings, personal issues, or conflicts) that you need to process?
2. What are the most important relationships in your life?
   

   A. Why are they important

   B. What are you willing to forego to ensure success in these relationships?

3. What does the ideal marriage/relationship look like to you?
4. What steps do you need to take in order to achieve your ideal?
5. Can you incorporate all the necessary adjustments and still remain your authentic self?

Here are a few of the concepts that will be discussed:

 1. Leadership often looks more like maintenance man than CEO

Talking about the way we view leadership and the fact that some of the things, the tasks that we may not necessarily attach to the title of leader are in fact vital to the success of our personal and professional relationships.

 2. You may have to take some L’s for your relationship to win

Looking at the concept of losing the battle to win the war and then realizing that with some shifting of thought, these things that once felt like losses are in fact lessons; the gems of which can be used to construct strategies that you can use over and over to win in every subsequent scenario.

 3. You can demand what you haven’t developed

Talking about Trust, Faith and Respect. These are things that I was expecting from the people around me but I had not developed in myself, nor did I understand the emotional and psychological weight I was signing up by demanding that from others.

 4. It is better to be trusted than to be loved

Addressing the cart before the horse dance that we often do, especially in relationships. Love as a feeling is fleeting, it can be manufactured and remanufactured on the fly. Trust must be built and building takes time.

 5. It’s not about you

Taking about the importance of true altruism; putting your needs above someone else. Also looking at authenticity and whether you can make the necessary adjustments in life to truly unselfishly live out these concepts without losing the essence of who you are.

We will do a deep dive into the following areas:

• Leadership
• Mental Stamina
• Relationships
• Trust
• Faith
• Respect
• Altruism
• Authenticity