I am by default an Apple product person. However, over the years I have had the opportunity to use both iOS and Android devices. I love the very clean user interface and experience that Apple provides, but I also love the ‘open platform’ that the Android OS promotes. Feature-rich functionality is very important to me because I feel like a I use my mobile device considerably more than the average person. I am that guy – I pretty much utilize every feature that a device provides. I would even jailbreak or root my devices to add features that were not originally designed to be part of the OS. When I left Apple and went to an Android powered device, it was for the abundance of things that i could do with the device (some of which I could not do using iOS). However, while I owned the Android device, I also had an Apple device that I was heavily dependent on. I had all these features and I loved the fact that I had access to all of them, but when it came time to use them in conjunction with my other device, I was having issues. Here is an example of just one of the issues: I rely on mobile video since we don’t have camera equipment. It was difficult to edit video across two different platforms.
So…Here are my options: Either I was going to enjoy the open, unrestricted Android platform and give up my need for continuity, OR I was going to enjoy the ‘peace’ that comes with minimal issues, at the expense of giving up some features that I’ve grown accustom to.
I had to make a choice. I had to choose between consistent feasibility and convenient features!
Often in marriage we must make the same choice – That is if you want a successful marriage! Vocabulary.com defines feasibility as “The quality of being doable.” We have to determine what things can be eliminated from our ‘deal-breakers’ category in order ensure the feasibility of a successful marriage. Because let’s be honest – some of our ‘deal-breakers’ are not reasonable. We cannot always ‘have our cake and eat it too’ so to speak. Your husband is a knight in shining armor, but he doesn’t make enough money to support the kind of baller lifestyle you want. Your wife is a phenomenal woman but she doesn’t cook certain dishes the way your mom does. Are those things worth dismantling what you have established thus far? Now you have choice to make – Are these convenient features worth enough to jeopardize your consistent feasibility?
Am I suggesting that you lower your standards or forego your needs? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
What I am suggesting is that we adjust our focus. Focus on the things that will make your marriage work, even if it means relinquishing some of your ‘convenient features’!
What ‘features’ are you holding onto that are hindering the consistent feasibility of your marriage being a success?
Oliver & Denise Marcelle are the founders of Denoli, LLC (speaking, facilitating, and mentoring/coaching). They have been married for 20 years and have 3 children.
Through seminars, a podcast, videos and social media posts, they offer a candid look into their own marriage, with the goal being to encourage couples and help them explore, grow and learn together.
It is their belief that all relationships stand a chance, if given the right tools.
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