So a little transparency here…
Lately, I’ve determined in my mind to be more intentional about not taking advantage of my husband’s kind and considerate ways. When you have someone whose feathers rarely get ruffled, and is as easy-going as my guy, you can get a bit too comfortable with those qualities, if you’re not mindful.
Recently, I have not been feeling that great physically. It had taken a bit of a toll on us in the intimacy department. But as soon as I started feeling a little better, I told him so…because we needed to get this intimacy train rolling again! True to his even-keel self, Oli suggested that we wait until I was feeling 100% (even though I felt like I was at like a 97-98% lol). I could have left it at that, knowing he wouldn’t make a fuss about it.
But I insisted, for a couple reasons…
- Well, hey…the desire was there 🤷🏾♀️
- I sensed very strongly that the Holy Spirit was telling me, “Girl, please…you good 🙄” and that I could either give in to the enemy and take advantage of my husband’s patience…or I could let go of that selfishness and let the Spirit bless us as a result…yasss!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
*Now, PLEASE HEAR ME: I’m not at all advocating that you should go ahead and be intimate with your spouse if you are truly unable to, for whatever reason; or if it will cause either of you harm in any way. I’m just talking about ME and what I knew I was capable of doing. And I just wasn’t willing to let the enemy win. Nope!
I’m just trying to be the best wife I can be for my guy. And for me, part of that is not taking advantage of the beautiful qualities God has blessed him (and me!) with.
Oliver & Denise Marcelle are the founders of Denoli, LLC (speaking, facilitating, and mentoring/coaching). They have been married for 20 years and have 3 children.
Through seminars, a podcast, videos and social media posts, they offer a candid look into their own marriage, with the goal being to encourage couples and help them explore, grow and learn together.
It is their belief that all relationships stand a chance, if given the right tools.
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